10 Questions Expectant Mothers Ask About Adoption
An expectant mother has many questions about adoption and what it means for her and her child. Here are the most common.
How can adoption be a good choice for my baby and me?
If you’re not ready to be a parent, you can still give your baby the gift of life by choosing adoption.
Can I choose the family for my baby?
Yes! Most agencies have many adoptive couples who have been studied and approved.
How much contact can I have with my baby after the birth and after adoption?
You can spend as much time with your baby at the hospital as you choose. When you are planning your child’s adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed through letters and photos. If you prefer not to have any contact, confidential adoption is also possible.
How soon after birth can my baby go to the parents I choose?
The timing of your child’s placement depends on your preference, legal aspects, and the role of the birth-father. Many mothers want their baby placed with the adoptive family directly from the hospital, while other mothers choose interim care while they consider their adoption decision.
How much will my child know about me?
Regardless of the type of adoption plan, you will want to provide a thorough social and medical history about yourself for your child. If you develop an adoption plan that includes ongoing contact, your child will know about you directly.
Does the expectant father have any rights?
Both you and the expectant father have rights. If you disagree about adoption or you no longer have a relationship with him, your agency will work with him and/or the courts to determine his rights.
Can my child find me if he or she wants to search someday?
Searching may only be necessary if there has not been ongoing contact. The law in your state determines when and how your child may access the information in the adoption file, which your caseworker can explain.
How can I be sure that my child will be well cared for?
There are standards that every prospective adoptive family must meet which are set by both the agency and the state in which they live. Families are thoroughly assessed before being approved for adoption, and a caseworker will make visits to the adoptive family after placement to ensure your child’s well-being.
Do I need an attorney, or do I pay my agency to assist me with the adoption?
In many states, you will not need an attorney, and most agencies provide services to you at no cost. If you do need an attorney, usually those costs are paid by the adoptive family.
Can I get help with medical and living expenses while I’m making an adoption plan?
Assistance with medical and living expenses is available through many agencies. For details about how your agency can help you in your particular circumstances, contact your caseworker.